Archive for December, 2008

Merry Christmas

Putting it into perspective.


May the Love, Peace, and Joy of Christmas be yours always.

Love came down on Christmas Day so many years ago and 

brought the greatest happiness the world would ever know…

Peace came down on Christmas Day to fill the hearts of men 
with all the sweet tranquility each Christmas brings again…

Joy came down on Christmas Day as angels came to earth
heralding the miracle of our Messiah’s birth.




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IQ & Success

thinkerA person’s intellectual level, based on a test and represented by a number determines his/her IQ level.  The higher the number, according to the test, the more intelligent the person is, but does high intellect guarantee success in life?

Royane Real in her book “How you can be smarter” writes about a Canadian television program that tracked down some of the people with the highest IQ scores in North America.  One man who has an extremely high genius IQ works as a motorcycle mechanic, hangs out with biker gangs, and is frequently in and out of jail.  Another man she tracked down is a man named  Chris Langan.   He is said to have the highest recorded IQ in the world.  His IQ measures at around 190-210 (Einstein’s was 180-190).  He has worked as a bouncer in a bar for ten years, earns minimum wage, and lives in a tiny garage. Many people with IQs of 160 work for people with IQs of 100.  Clearly, a high IQ is not enough to predict who will succeed in life.

Among the ingredients for success, researchers now generally agree that IQ accounts for about 20%.  The rest depends on everything from class to luck, opportunity and timing.  Some critics say that the only thing IQ tests can really predict is who will do well on IQ tests.

But in reality whether we realize/like it or not we link IQ to success.  After all that’s why most of us are amazed when we hear about the high IQ of an individual.  We are amazed by virtue of our “assumption” that they will be able to achieve great things, run a major corporation or find a cure for a major disease through their exceptionally high intellect.

Of course all of this begs the question: what is success really?  Is its definition even objective? Success may mean one thing to me and something entirely different to the next person.  You may point to some one’s financial position to gauge success while someone else may use being fit/healthy or indeed smart as their definition of success.  All these things however ultimately point to the same thing – happiness.  Because we assume the wealthy person will be happy because of their money, the fit person will be happy about their health and the smart person happy about their intelligence.

This is why many people use as their gauge of success Relational Intelligence (RI).  It is, in my opinion the ultimate gauge of success because it transcends all other measurements.  Relational Intelligence doesn’t measure success by your intellect, the amount of money you have in your bank account, the car you drive or the size of the home you live in, because if you had all the money in the world but no meaningful relationships, no authentic friends to share your wealth or happiness with – you would have nothing.  The surest way to success (happiness) is a life rich in rewarding relationships.  Relationally intelligent people understand how short life is, that one day this life will end and proceed accordingly .  You can have all the success in the world measured by any other yard stick but true success comes from the happiness that you can only get by loving and being loved.

The good news is that relational intelligence (RI) — the ability to connect with other people by learning to read their heart is a skill that can be developed.


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