Posts Tagged ‘Chronic Fatigue Syndrome’

Lines That Divide US

“Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.”  These words, spoken by Aristotle, are too often ignored and the price we pay is high .  When street gangs substitute for families and schoolyard insults end in stabbings it is a sure sign of a lack of empathy.  Being able to empathize is a crucial ability that forms part of Emotional Quotient (EQ) and matters immensely in terms of how we do in life.  Empathy has to do with knowing another person’s feelings, feeling what that person feels and responding compassionately to another’s distress.

Empathy acts as a buffer to cruelty and is a quality known to be lacking in child molesters and psychopaths.  Empathy is also known to lead to acts of altruism which is known to activate emotions that are vital to the maintaining of good health.

Schools that develop emotional literacy programs, designed to help children learn to manage anger, frustration, and loneliness see lunch time fights, for example, decrease from two or three a day to almost none.

How much happier would we be, how much more successful as individuals and civil as a society, if we were more alert to the importance of Emotional Quotient?

Aristotle also wrote: “Anyone can become angry, that is easy, but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and the right way — this is not easy.”

The good news is that empathy is an innate quality that can be shaped by experience.  The greater your ability to empathize the greater your EQ.


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The Dark Triad – Part 4 Psychopath

Skip to: Part 1 Intro –       Part 2 Narcissist –      Part 3 Machiavellian

The hallmark of psychopathy is a lack of empathy.  In fact when it comes to empathy, psychopaths have none; they have special difficulty recognizing fear or sadness on people’s faces or in their voices.

In a 2002 Study, David Kosson and Yana Suchy, asked psychopathic inmates to name the emotion expressed in each of 30 faces; compared to controls, Psychopaths had a

significantly lower rate of accuracy in recognizing disgusted facial affect.

Psychopaths are glib and superficially charming, and many psychopaths are excellent mimics of normal human emotion.

The consensus among researchers is that psychopathy stems from a specific neurological disorder which is biological in origin and present from birth.  It is estimated that one percent of the general population are psychopaths.

For Psychopaths other people are just a mark, to be duped, used and discarded.  They lack any sense of guilt or remorse for any harm they may have caused others, instead rationalizing the behavior, blaming someone else, or denying it outright.

Psychopaths also feel no anticipatory fears, they are virtually oblivious to the threat of punishment.

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If I had my life to live over

By Erma Bombeck



The following was written by Erma Bombeck who was a journalist and humor columnist writing mostly about suburban family life. She suffered from polycystic kidney disease and died days after receiving a kidney transplant.



If I had my life to live over. . .

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the “good” living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television, and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.”

There would have been more “I love you’s.” More “I’m sorry’s.”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute… look at it and really see it… live it… and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what.

Instead, let’s cherish the relationships we have with those who DO love us.

Let’s think about what God HAS blessed us with.

And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well as spiritually.

Life is too short to let it pass you by.

We only have one shot at this and then it’s gone.

I hope you all have a blessed day.


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The Pale Horse – Choleric

“And I beheld, and lo a pale horse; and he that sat on him was destined to be in control.   Its rider is full of ambition, energy and passion but also easily angered and bad-tempered.”

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taylor-pale-horseCholerics more than anything else need to have control, achievement and appreciation.  Not only do they want to be in control but have little ability to catch even a glimpse of their weaknesses.  We all like to accomplish our goals and enjoy being appreciated, but for the Cholerics, these become emotional needs.

Cholerics have a great bent for leadership, but a blind spot in seeing how they effect other people.  Cholerics have a compulsion for constant achievement.  Because the Choleric is a born leader, he has the need to see things accomplished and has a mental progress list stored in his/her brain.  Where the Melancholy writes his agendas on paper, the Choleric plots his life out quickly in his head and gives instant commands to everyone in sight.  The Choleric assumes others both need and want instruction and feels those who aren’t marching to his drumbeat are lazy.

Cholerics are usually married to Phlegmatics who look forward to the weekend’s rest, so their insatiable need for getting things done now is often thwarted.  Choleric parents keep their children moving, use all available manpower, and get frustrated when their spouse don’t respond to their call to arms.

The Choleric workaholic nature appears self-satisfied, but much of what he/she does is inwardly a cry for recognition.  If he/she has not received praises as a child, he will work to death trying to stimulate his parents to enthusiastic comments.  When Cholerics don’t receive credit or others don’t thank them, they often say, “After all I’ve done for them.”

Many families are destroyed by Choleric men who feel no one at home appreciates all he has done for them and who reaches out for something to restore his slipping self-confidence.  In strutting his stuff, he finds a friend who makes him feel like a man again, and he walks away from his family.

Choleric women tend to marry Phlegmatic men and unconsciously of them and the children.  As long as everyone has an obedient attitude, the mother stays happy, but when anyone in the group rebels, she may become depressed.

Cholerics become depressed when they feel that they have lost control of where they are heading in life.  Cholerics who are physically disabled also often get depressed.

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Killing You Softly


As discussed in a previous post Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is an exclusionary diagnosis and has many causes.  One of these causes is Sick Building Syndrome.  In the 1970s, building construction techniques changed in response to the energy crisis.  As a result, homes and buildings became more airtight.  Also, cheaper materials such as drywall came into common use.  This combination of increased moisture and suitable substrates contributed to increased mold growth inside buildings.

Some of these molds produce mycotoxins that can pose serious health risks to humans. Exposure, and especially repeated exposure like daily workplace exposure, to high levels of mycotoxins can lead to neurological problems and in some cases death.

SBS is a combination of ailments associated with an individual’s place of work (office building) residence or school.  A 1984 World Health Organization report in to the syndrome suggested up to 30% of new and remodeled buildings worldwide may be linked to symptoms of SBS.  According to the latest data from the US Occupational Health and Safely Administration more than 20 million American workers may now be effected with toxins from SBS Fungi.  Add to that 10 million US school kids who are also exposed daily to building-related fungal toxins, and its easy to see why the word “epidemic” isn’t an exaggeration when it comes to describing the recent surge in SBS.

There are tremendous variations in the kinds of buildings that can become home to toxin-forming species of fungi.  Any building that provides the proper mix of food and water can potentially be at risk.  When the building has air circulation that is closed, with little outside air input and windows that don’t open, any intrusion of water can become the source of fungal blooms.

The worst part?  Standard medical diagnostic tests are usually normal in patients who have these biotoxin-induced illnesses, which makes it difficult to diagnose and treat.  Patients chronically ill due to biotoxin exposure are often misdiagnosed with other ailments including Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Depression, Multiple Sclerosis, Bell’s Palsy, Endometriosis, sinsory-neural deafness, low vision, Lyme Desease and learning disabilities.

The most common symptoms in patients affected with SBS are fatigue, muscle aches, headaches, respiratory symptoms that don’t respond to normal treatments for sinus congestion or asthma, joint problems, and here’s the big deal: memory problems, difficulty with concentration and assimilation of new knowledge, confusion and difficulty with word finding.  Neurologic problems include numbness, tingling, vertigo and metallic taste.

The good news is that recent research has led to the discovery of a diagnosis and treatment paradigm for chronic biotoxin induced illlness.  The paradigm includes detection of a deficit in the ability of the patient to detect visual patterns and treatment with a non-absorbable polymer to bind toxins and increase their elimination rate.  If you want more info on the treatment paradigm feel free to contact me.

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Read Less More

“Leaders are Readers”

loving books (pages of book curved into a heart shape)

A definite characteristic of highly effective leaders is that they are avid readers, that’s why serious leaders who are serious readers build personal libraries dedicated to how to think.

Abraham Lincoln used to walk miles to borrow books which he would read by candlelight afetr working long days.  An article by the New York times talks about the reading habits of some very prominent people such as Phil Knight (founder of Nike Inc.) and Michael Moritz (the venture capitalist responsible for backing such respected compaines as google and yahoo).  These leaders make reading an indispensable part of their life and business.  Leaders who read are highly positive, creative and exude confidence and competence.

In my constant search for blogging material I find myself doing a lot of reading – as many as 3 or 4 books at any one time.  I’ve recognized the importance or reading for a while now, but despite that knowledge I can’t say I had ever really fellen in love with the concept.  If you can relate or are just in need to read through a lot of material in a short period of time here is a great resource that helps you read faster and retain the information better, its called Read Less More.  It almost sounds too good to be true but it really does work.  Give it a try!

I’ve found that by developing the habit of reading, even just a little bit, but every day, you will start to enjoy it.  Your thinking will sharpen, you’ll increase your knowledge and you will become a more interesting person.



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The thing that’s always amazed me the most about Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) is its definition, which reads: One of several names given to a poorly understood variably debilitating disorder of uncertain cause/causes. Wow! That basically says “we’re not sure what to call it, we have a poor understanding of what the disease is and we’re uncertain about its cause(s)”.  So if you are diagnosed with CFS it merely means you have the symptoms associated with CFS, such as chronic mental and physical exhaustion, myalgia, and cognitive difficulties to name a few.   Being diagnosed with CFS tells us nothing of why we are experiencing those symptoms which for most of us means adding “frustration” to the list of symptoms.  Its no wonder CFS is often referred to as the “Phantom Illness”.

CFS is largely an exclusionary diagnosis and your cause of CFS may be different from mine, therefore your treatment(s) would have to be different from mine.  So lets for a minute forget all the names and take the prevailing symptoms (chronic mental and physical exhaustion, muscle weakness, sleep disturbances etc.) and simply refer to them as “IT”.

The “key” and, in my opinion, the first step to finding a cure to your “IT” is to go “back to the drawing board” by finding the cause of your illness.  There are lots of remedies out there for treating the symptoms, but you will never resolve the problem completely until you find out what caused/is causing your “IT”.  This can mean researching the alleged possible cause of “IT”, trying any known treatment protocol for that cause and seeing if symptom resolution is experienced. Remembering, of course, not to undertake any medical treatments without the strict direction of your doctor. I am not sure which possible cause you should start with, my doctor and I ruled out at least 2 causes before finding a treatment protocol that was extremely successful for me.  I suggest you start out by researching all the possible causes of your “IT” and making a determination of which one most likely pertains to you.  For example if you live in an area that is known to have ticks, you would start by researching Lyme Disease and, more importantly, Post Lyme Disease. If you live in an estuaries area, loaded with agricultural chemicals,  you should research Possible Estuary Associated Syndrome (PEAS). And if you live, work or go to school in a a building infected with mold (known as a sick building) you would research Sick Building Syndrome.  These are just a few of the many possible causes of “IT”.

Through my research and a doctor’s guidance I was able to find the cause of my “IT” and finally follow a treatment protocol that was successful in decreasing all of my (major) symptoms, most of them to a 2 or 3 on a scale from 1- 10.  Although I still cannot go to the gym and work out or participate in sports that require high physical activity, I no longer feel like I have to lift a “Mac Truck” off of myself just to get out of bed in the morning and I have been able to go back to full time work.  The bad news is I often get re-infected and have to repeat the treatment.  Thankfully research is ongoing and I am confident that in the future a cure for my “IT” will be found.

If you are experiencing the symptoms of “IT” I urge you to please contact me. There is now a simple and inexpensive tool that assists in diagnosis by showing evidence of neurological deficit.  It can help you determine what further action, if any, you should take.  If you have any questions or would like additional information please contact me personally.  Good Luck!

Yours truly,


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